Over the last six months, I've done some serious evaluating. Making the decision to become a full-time stay-at-home mom was a difficult but exciting choice, and from the moment we felt led to take that leap, my mind was spinning.
I'm passionate about becoming a godly mom and wife, and let me tell you, God isn't starting with much here. I have such a short fuse and half the time, I don't even realizing I'm snapping.
I could go on, but much of what I've discovered about disciplining my children over time is that, it's less about changing their behavior and more about changing mine.
Tonight wore me down. We're coming off the heels of Christmas and my three year old has been sick for the past week. Couple being spoiled with gifts, junk food and late nights with fevers and constant TV, and you've got a recipe for a disaster. She's been in full meltdown mode. I've said before that I think consistency is the key; whatever your method, be prepared to follow though - first time and every time. I realize this is sometimes easier said than done.
Matt went back to work today, Hannah to school, and Emma opened her eyes ready to conquer all in her path. It started with getting dressed, wearing a coat, not being allowed to watch TV, banging her knee, throwing toys and refusing to put shoes on. I was tired before 8:30am.
Leaving my parents' house today, I told her either way, she had to put her shoes on to leave. If she fought with me about it, she couldn't have her music in the car. She tested that - and had a music-less ride home.
Later this evening, our little spitfire, refused to eat her dinner, sit on the potty, take a bath and put on her pajamas. After many warnings and punishments, little Emma went to bed before 7:00pm. I sat and rocked a hysterical little girl, begging for a 100th chance. Watching her trying to catch her breath from crying so hard, I wanted to give in. I was fighting back tears. I had to stick to my guns. If I don't follow through, she will never take me seriously, follow the rules, or learn to be disciplined. She won't understand that their are consequences for her actions.
I couldn't help but think of how God is with us. He doesn't want to discipline us. But he wants us to be healthy and whole. He gives us chance after chance. He wants us to do the right thing. It's not about him torturing us when we make a mistake. It's about making us a little uncomfortable when we're knowingly making bad decisions so that we redirect our paths. It's out of complete love. It's so hard for me to grasp, especially as someone who can tend to be anxious, but looking at my baby and refusing to give in, I understood. It broke my heart. I was glad it was dark in her room because, as her little eyes stared at me piercing my soul, tears were stinging mine.
She's sound asleep, exhausted from not feeling well, and I'm praying tomorrow is a better day. I'm drained but confident that tonight, I did the right thing, helping Emma take a baby step toward a more fulfilling life.
Parenting is hard. I wonder how God feels.
Hebrews 12:11 For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
Thursday, January 2, 2014
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
Lately, social media is inundated with before and after pictures of everyday women scantily clad, who are following one of a number of programs that has helped them to lose weight and look very fabulous. While I am exceedingly proud of these beautiful people for their hard work and dedication; and while they look incredible, there's a problem.
Even though I don't disagree that these programs may in fact work, spending hundreds and thousands of dollars on shakes, extreme workout programs, supplements and other items that promise to make you look like Jennifer Aniston, although tempting, is unsustainable and unnecessary. How many people do you know that bought P90X or Insanity, finished the program, got the T-Shirt, and kept working out? Those programs are honestly not geared toward McDonalds-eating couch potatoes. They're HARD, taxing on the body, and set up for people who already workout. Shakes, supplements, wraps, creams, restrictive diets that eliminate good sources of whole foods, and gadgets aren't some miracle that you're going to keep up with forever. I understand that, these things may help you to jumpstart a healthier lifestyle. If so, and you move on from it geared up for every day life, that's great. It just shouldn't be a be-all end-all when it comes to health and fitness.
Health has to be practical. Sustainable. It has to fit into the real world; something you're willing and able to keep up with in the long run…The latest diet/exercise/health plan isn't the answer.
HERE'S WHAT IS…
First, those close to me know, I like to eat delicious things, I like to cook delicious things, and I'm not a dieter. I do love vegetables and whole foods, and most of my food intake consists of these things. As I've headed into my early thirties here, I can tell you it's true that your metabolism slows. Also, honestly, I do take vitamins and supplements for specific issues, and my daughter and I don't eat gluten because we become very sick if we do…not because gluten is bad for everyone. I actually gained weight when I stopped eating gluten! It's not a way to diet!
After having two kids, I've lost weight and have become more fit than I've ever been in my life, and I've done it for FREE without a restrictive diet…and I still bake and eat dessert daily. My husband has done the same thing - and he now weighs less than he ever has in the fifteen years we've been together.
Two things I've used:
What YOU need to do (besides being ready and willing to make a change):
1. Move for 15 minutes a day….I don't care what you do. It could be a Fitness Blender workout video, one of the hundreds of thousands of the workout videos on YouTube, dance with your kids, walk your dog, speed clean the house…it doesn't matter. Move. Today and most days for 15 minutes. Make it part of your routine. 15 minutes. When you feel like you're ready to increase the duration, increase it, but do it often. It's all about routine and something you can stick with.
2. Keep track of your food. What are you eating? You can do this in My Fitness Pal, a notebook, or on your phone. Just keep track, and when you're ready, start figuring out the calories your eating…and then eat less. You can then work toward incorporating more whole foods into your diet so that you're actually receiving the nutrition you need!
Unless you have a thyroid issue or another health problem that makes it difficult to lose weight, this will work. It's safe, sustainable, and you don't have to buy anything. After a while, you'll have fun, see progress, and maybe you'll want to reward yourself with some things…Stay tuned for my favorite workout gadgets that just make it more fun for me…but for now…and forever, you don't need to buy anything.
For my friends who disagree with this post, please, post a comment with your thoughts. I'm always open to friendly discussion.
Edited to add: I do NOT think certain programs and extra supplements or diet plans are bad. I'm not looking to discredit or debate them…I only want the average Joe to know they don't need anything special or lots of money to get healthy. As I said before, I myself take supplements for specific issues that I'm having, and support a healthy, balanced lifestyle. THAT is the point of this message.
Tuesday, November 5, 2013
Everything listed has been adapted to be gluten and dairy free! If you have substitution questions, ASK!
Peanut Butter Oatmeal Energy Bites (I used gluten free oats, dairy free chocolate chips) 70 calories in one, makes 34.
Apple Cinnamon Coconut Flour Muffins 200 calories in 1 muffin. Makes 12
BBQ Chicken Quinoa Salad (I used SO delicious plain dairy free yogurt)
Nitrate Free Ham/DF Cheddar slices on wraps or crackers
PB & J
Baked Lemon Thyme Chicken, GF Noodles, Roasted Broccoli
Crock Pot Mongolian Beef with brown rice, peas
Pulled Pork Stuffed sweet Potatoes & Salad
We eat leftovers for dinner every other day.
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